You need to fail big this year! Wait, was that a weird piece of advice to give? Maybe it was but it’s still a fantastic idea!
As we start another new year, we’re normally told to make fantastic resolutions and to shoot for the moon. Well, I’m telling you to do the same, just in a different way.
I once heard Will Smith say that in order to win we need to fail big, and I absolutely agree. In this post, I’ll be breaking down five reasons why you need to fail big this year in order to gain the confidence you need to make all your dreams a reality.
If this piques your interest, keep reading.
“It’s only when you risk failure that you discover things. You play it safe, you’re not expressing the utmost of your human experience.” Lupita Nyong’o
5 Reasons You Need To Fail Big This Year
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IS FAILURE PART OF SUCCESS?
Not for everyone. But for most people, yes, failure is a part of the journey to success.
When I started working in the corporate environment, I got my first, good-paying job in a large insurance firm. The office space was small but there was room to grow.
For three months I did what I could and learned what I needed to in order to complete the tasks given to me. But at the end of the three months, I was fired.
Yup, I failed big time and was sent home to wallow in my misery. I had been given a fantastic opportunity to grow and become a highly paid professional in the field of insurance… but I failed.
Looking back on that time I’m actually glad I failed because it taught me a number of valuable lessons I needed to learn before I could actually become successful.
If it weren’t for my time at “Fail Big Insurance Company” I wouldn’t be exactly where I am today- on the path to building my dream life and helping others do the same.
You need to fail big if you want to achieve big, monumental things with your life. Many of us fear failure because sometimes it can be quite expensive so we just want to get things right immediately.
That’s not always the case though and you’re going to consistently hold yourself back if you live a life where you fear failing.
FAILURE TEACHES YOU IMPORTANT LESSONS
Whether you realise it or not, failure teaches you important lessons.
Think about it for a moment.
You’ve decided to start your own company selling lemonade on the sidewalk to passersby in the summer. So you create your best lemonade recipe, set your stand up and patiently wait for people to stop by.
After a few days, you realise that no-one is coming to your lemonade stand but you just can’t figure out why. Your company has failed before you’ve really gotten a chance to grow.
Wanting to see where everyone hangs out, you decide to go for a walk through the neighbourhood. As you do, you realise there are two parks where families spend hours every day.
You also realise that everyone has to pack water and drinks in their own containers.
Why didn’t you think of this before?
Had you relocated your lemonade stand, you would be making tons of money, right?
You will learn from your failures. It’s just up to you to understand what those lessons are so you can apply them and grow.
Ask yourself what mistakes you made during the process and how can you apply the things you’ve learned. In your business, career and life, things will not always be perfect but if you can see the lesson in failing big, you’ll realise the opportunity to realign and gain the clarity you need.
FAILURE LEADS TO COMPETENCE
Failure leads to competence and gives you the valuable experiences you need to live a truly great life.
Before their success, some of the world’s most successful people experienced epic failure but it only improved their personal and professional skills.
I’m sure you’ve heard of Theodor Seuss Geisel or as most of us call him ” Dr Seuss.”
As a writer of children’s books, his first novels were trashed and rejected by multiple publishers. Not to be swayed from his dream, he refined his writing and illustration skills then went on to sell over 600 million copies of his books worldwide.
The more you fail, the greater opportunity you have to learn, grow and improve.
As a coach, blogger and teacher, I’ve failed many times but I saw each failure for what it was- an opportunity to refine my skills and become an even better authority in my field.
This has done wonders for my confidence and will do wonders for yours as well. Competence leads to confidence.
You will never know what you are truly capable of accomplishing if you’ve never failed.
Your failed attempts also help you to pinpoint those areas of weakness you need to work on so you can mature.
Approach your mistakes and failures through the eyes of a child so that you can realise the true value in failing big.
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FAILURE MAKES YOU RESILIENT
Failing in life helps to build resilience because the more we fail, the more resilient we become.
We’re often taught that failure is an embarrassing and painful experience but it’s not. Big failures are also big opportunities to succeed in the future.
Like the Steve Jobs and Albert Einsteins of the world, the first few times we try something, we won’t necessarily succeed but that should make us want it even more.
Every time I was knocked down in life, I got up. And each time I got up, a piece of me became reinforced with steel.
Without my failures, I wouldn’t be the strong woman I am today and without your failures, you won’t become the amazing person you were meant to become.
For us to achieve great success we must understand how to be resilient.
We understand that there is no such thing as overnight success or that “overnight successes” were actually years in the making. This realization pushes us to work harder and push ourselves even further.
That’s what makes you a success.
FAILURE DOESN’T DEFINE YOU
Failing big will not define who you are… unless you allow it to.
We are all human beings and as human beings, we will make mistakes. Everyone will fail at something. If you have not failed at anything, then know that you will.
No matter how many times you’ve failed or how many times you’ve fallen down, that doesn’t make you a failure.
The fact that you’ve gotten up every single time and kept on going, makes you an amazing person.
I’m sure you’ve taken tons of tests in your life and gotten a few Cs and Ds somewhere, but did that mean you were stupid? Of course not!
It just meant that you needed to figure out what went wrong, and work harder so that the next time you took a test you would get yourself that A.
Always strive for progress when chasing your dreams and stop obsessing over perfection. Be proud of who you are and how far you have come because it matters.
If you’ve recently failed at something in a major way, and you’re having trouble dealing with it, just remember this: You failed at something. You are not a failure.
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FAILING BIG LEADS TO WINNING BIG
Failure is a stepping-stone to something greater.
If you’ve failed big at something in your life it means that you’ve actually done something that most people never do-step outside your comfort zone.
Millions of people want to be successful but they aren’t willing to leave the couch that is their comfort zone so they can actually get out there. That alone should make you feel successful.
You can fail in life and end up where you need to be because failure can become your roadmap.
Life can be like a maze and the more wrong turns you make, the better chance you have of getting closer and closer to the exit which is where your success lies.
Don’t look down on yourself for thinking big and wanting more. The people who have gone on to change the world did exactly the same thing!
Colonel Sanders, Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, and Mark Zuckerberg all had massive dreams. They put themselves out there, failed massively then went on to create Fortune 500 companies.
Your next failure just might be that huge stepping stone that you need to build the company of your dreams.
IT’S TIME TO SHIFT, LEARN AND GROW
Keep believing in your dreams and in yourself. Have confidence in the vision and in yourself to make that vision a reality.
To successfully achieve your goals, you need to take consistent action. This builds true confidence.
After facing failure, people will often work twice as hard and push themselves even further to make sure they win the next time. This is why you need to fail.
You also need to prepare yourself to shift, learn and grow as you go through the process. Successful people aren’t lucky. They’ve just had tons of private failures that have led to public success.
So, are you ready to fail big?
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