Love Yourself First: Brilliant Ways To Practice Self-Love Today

Love Yourself First: Brilliant Ways To Practice Self-Love Today

Hi guys! How was your weekend? I hope you had time for some R&R. The past few weeks have gotten so much busier for me. My blog has been taking up more and more of my time, and this means I have less time for rest and relaxation. I haven’t had a lot of time to practice self-love. Isn’t that a dilly of a pickle? I know that I previously wrote about 30 great ways to practice self-love daily but I really wanted to go a bit more in-depth on the subject because self-love really is so important. In this post, I will give you brilliant ways to practice self-love and show you how to love yourself first today.

“If you don’t love yourself, you will always chase after people who don’t love you either.” Mandy Hale

Brilliant Ways To Practice Self-Love Today


Let me ask you a question.  Are you living your life or is your life secretly living you? An odd question, I know, but it opens up the conversation about what kind of life we want to live. Are we just reacting to everything that happens to us in our daily lives or are we actively living?

When I was younger, I always I knew exactly what kind of life I wanted to live. I knew when I would be married, and what kind of job I would have. It took a series of unfortunate events occurring for me to realize I wasn’t in charge of my life at all. In fact, I was just a free passenger on the ride of my life.

I decided then and there to start living. From that point on, I would have control of my life. I encourage you to do the same. Mindfully choose how you want to spend each day. You also need to decide what you will spend your time thinking about and the kinds of experiences you wish to create.

Choose the direction you want your life to go and choose a life of fulfilment.



This has got to my biggest issue when it comes to self-love and self-confidence. It is always fairly easy for me to sing the praises of others but ever so hard for me sing my own.

I sometimes failed to recognize all the talents and good things that lay within myself. I realized I really didn’t love myself at all. Hard pill to swallow for me at the time.

Like me, the first thing you need to do is to recognize the impact that you have on others. Every single day that you are alive, you make a difference to more people than you know. Take time each day to appreciate all that makes you who you are and all that you contribute to the world.

Grab a piece of paper and make a list of all of your strengths as well. Too often we focus on our weaknesses and forget our self-worth. Don’t fall into this trap. Appreciate who you are, and whenever you need to, read the list of qualities that make you an amazing person.


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Smiling, ugh. This is one thing that freaks me out at times. Is it just me or is everyone afraid of the way their face looks when they smile? Just me? Okay.

For years, whenever I had to take a picture I would practice for at least an hour beforehand. I wanted to get my smile just right. My self-confidence hinged on everything looking just perfect.

It wasn’t until one of my friends pointed out how silly I looked that I stopped doing this. Sometimes you need an outside pair of eyes to help you see the truth.

Smiling is a fantastic way to practice self-love today. I try to smile at least 10 to 15 times a day because it reminds me to love myself. (I hope that isn’t too excessive, lol).

When you smile, it makes you feel better. It changes your perspective on a situation and it just makes things a bit easier to handle. In a post last year, I spoke about how smiling can make you a happier person in 10 minutes and it holds true today.

When you’re feeling down, smile. If you can’t seem to find the light at the end of the tunnel, smile. Trust me on this. (My profile pic should speak for itself).



CREATE A “Love Yourself First” ROUTINE

After going through a toxic, almost life-threatening relationship, my sense of self-worth and self-confidence were nonexistent. The thing is I spent so much of my time and energy loving and doting on the other person that I completely disregarded my own self in the process.

This might be your current story and it might not. Either way, you need to develop a “love yourself first” routine and carry out this routine on a daily basis.

Loving yourself first is seriously so important because not only will your sense of self-benefit, your self-respect will also be positively affected.

Developing your self-love routine can be as simple as you make it. Firstly you need to treat yourself and your needs as if you are having an amazing love affair with the person staring back at you when you look in the mirror.

You need to consistently be nice to yourself and say kind words. Compliment yourself on your hair or that great outfit you bought yesterday then go from there.

The biggest part of your routine needs to be protected. It is important that you protect yourself and learn when you need to say no or have time for yourself. Set boundaries and ensure that you have the right people in your corner at all times.



Did I read that correctly? You want me to embrace all the stuff that’s wrong with me including everything that gives me self-esteem issues? Yup! To practice self-love you need to fall in love with yourself all over again and embrace your flaws.

Every time we look in the mirror we see our imperfections. We see that line on our nose that makes it a bit crooked. A pimple we had last week is still very much there and we sigh. Why can’t we be as perfect as Tamera Mowry or some other celeb?

Honestly, perfection is an illusion and no-one is perfect or even appears perfect all the time. Try catching some of these celebs when they just wake up in the morning! (Although I have seen Tamera Mowry’s wake up routine and she looks darn good! Love her!!)

The truth is we are all flawed in some way and the sooner you begin to embrace that, the sooner you’ll start to change the image you have of yourself.

Stop comparing your body and all its parts to other people, and start wearing that dress you’ve been longing to wear since FOREVER or that tux that you think makes you look fat.

Your happiness and your self-worth should not be dependent on what you or anyone else looks like so embrace who you are because you are flawsome!!


Be Good To Yourself

The truth is we live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves to someone else on social media. The thing is, social media is just a snapshot of someone else’s life. You really have no idea what that person goes through once that photo is uploaded.

I suggest spending less time looking at others and spend more time focusing on loving yourself. At the end of the day, if you don’t truly love yourself and consistently practice self-love, you will never be able to understand true happiness.

I hope by the time you’ve gotten to this point, you’ve done some thinking and are ready to really start being good to yourself. Go ahead. Love yourself. You deserve it!

If you enjoyed reading about how to practice self-love today, then you will enjoy the extended list of 30 ways to practice self-love every single day even when you’re busy!

Also, let me know. Have you been too busy lately to practice self-love? Are you struggling with being good to yourself? I love reading your comments and hearing your thoughts so please comment down below. Also if you have any questions feel free to ask me them in the comment section below. Please also like and share this post and sign up so you never miss a thing!

Until next time.

Peace, love and prayers.

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  1. April 16, 2018 / 9:40 PM

    I always try to practice self love! I mean, you have to be nice to yourself. One way I do this is reading, since it’s one of my favorite things to do.

    • April 21, 2018 / 7:24 PM

      That is actually a great way to practice self love!

  2. Heather Reed
    April 17, 2018 / 12:05 AM

    Oh I love this blog post. I had to save the quote up top about not loving yourself and searching for other people that don’t! That touched my soul!! You’re an amazing writer.

  3. April 17, 2018 / 1:49 AM

    I am not good to myself and I know I should be and I think I should live intentionally. These are really good tips to loving oneself.

    • April 21, 2018 / 7:23 PM

      I hope you learn how to properly love yourself soon

  4. Sudipta
    April 17, 2018 / 2:13 AM

    This is such an inspirational article. I loved it and learned a lot about how to practice self love. It is not too difficult, just need to focus.

    • April 21, 2018 / 7:20 PM

      Thank you for your kind words. I hope the advice helps you through life

  5. April 17, 2018 / 4:29 AM

    These are some amazing tips, I think we all need to spend some time looking after ourselves. After all if we don’t, how can we care for the others we love when we need it as well.

    • April 21, 2018 / 7:19 PM

      Aww thank you so much. Taking care of ourselves is so important

  6. April 17, 2018 / 5:49 AM

    Embracing your flaws is probably the .oat powerful weapon in your self love arsenal, the moment you can get to that point of owning and embracing physical, emotional and all flaws you really are on a path to self appreciation and self love. Such a great post. Thanks

    • April 21, 2018 / 7:18 PM

      You’re welcome. The more we embrace them the more we love ourself

  7. April 17, 2018 / 11:41 AM

    This one is the hardest yet the most important!
    I sometimes obsess about some little things that other people don’t even notice.
    Need to stop and be flawsome!

    • April 21, 2018 / 11:07 AM

      Yes. Just embrace how amazing your curves are and be flawsome!

  8. April 17, 2018 / 12:27 PM

    As a first time mom, who has spent the last two years neglecting herself, let me tell you how important self-love and self-care truly are. I was depressed, angry, and downright unpleasant to be around for quite a while. It took me a long time to start caring for myself again, and now I’m proud to say that I’m happy, healthy, and people actually want to hang out with me again. I couldn’t stay in the pit of self hate any longer, not it I wanted to raise my daughter right.

    • April 21, 2018 / 11:06 AM

      Wow. What a journey. I’m so happy that you’re finally in a great place again

  9. Andrea
    April 17, 2018 / 12:34 PM

    it is so important to be able to love yourself first, my mom from since I can remember has always said in order to love others you need to love yourself and I didn’t understand it took a while before it made sense and clicked how much this affects my day to day life and my relationships.

    • April 20, 2018 / 8:21 AM

      Aww. Your mom sounds amazing and she’s so right. If we don’t love ourselves then we can’t truly love others

  10. Minakshi Bajpai
    April 17, 2018 / 4:36 PM

    Self love is necessary to live life. It gives positivily and self respect.

  11. April 17, 2018 / 8:56 PM

    Love this post! Self love is definitely important.

  12. Jessica Taylor
    April 17, 2018 / 10:21 PM

    I really love how you say to embrace your flaws. It took me a long time to love myself, and now I feel so much better overall.

    • April 20, 2018 / 8:20 AM

      That’s really great to hear. I know it’s a struggle but keep loving yourself

  13. April 18, 2018 / 2:01 AM

    Taking time to appreciate yourself – such a key thought but something we never really do is it? It’s almost sad we need reminding to do this and love ourselves isn’t it! Great tips.

  14. April 18, 2018 / 4:59 AM

    This post is so perfect and comes in with the perfect timing! Loving your flaws helps making part of you and turn them into a strength! Loving yourself is essential especially in the era of social media ! great tips!

  15. April 18, 2018 / 5:14 AM

    There are days where I forgot to be good to myself and today is just that day. I really need this today. Thanks for the tips!

  16. April 18, 2018 / 1:36 PM

    Being good to yourself is key to loving all that embodies you. I think a lot of the times we get so caught up in treating others right that we forget to do the same for ourselves.

    • April 19, 2018 / 1:44 PM

      Yes I fell into that trap. i completely forgot to be kind to myself.

  17. April 18, 2018 / 8:22 PM

    I often find self love quite hard to practice but I do think that something as simple as a smile can help us feel more confident or at the same time giving ourselves affirmations will allow us to feel more confident. Sometimes the simple things can help us with self love.

    • April 19, 2018 / 1:36 PM

      That is so true. Alot of times simplicity is key!

  18. April 18, 2018 / 8:31 PM

    Embracing my flaws might take some practice but it’s doable. I try to smile every day but sometimes that’s hard when you live a life of pain. I’m going to try harder and put all of your tips to work in my life.

    • April 19, 2018 / 1:33 PM

      Oh wow! You are so strong. I truly believe that if you keep smiling, slowly but surely your situation will change

  19. April 18, 2018 / 9:44 PM

    These is really useful. I completely agree with embracing your flaws and taking time to appreciate yourself. It builds confidence. Nice share

  20. April 21, 2018 / 6:04 PM

    “If you don’t love yourself, you will always chase after people who don’t love you either.” Mandy Hale. This is the first time to see this quotes and I quite agree. This is a very motivational piece.

    • April 21, 2018 / 7:11 PM

      Thank you so much! I hope it inspires many people

  21. kim
    April 23, 2018 / 9:31 AM

    These are such important reminders! I always say if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.

    • April 23, 2018 / 9:39 AM

      That is so true. So many of us learn this lesson the hard way.

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