Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection to them? The way they spoke, carried themselves and treated others was nothing short of irresistible. But what makes a man (or woman) irresistibly attractive? Are there special rules that we need to follow or a specific surgery we need to do? I wouldn’t say that, but I do believe that there are specific ways to carry yourself that will have almost anyone begging to become your best friend. These tips work for both your business and personal relationships. Here are 7 ways to be irresistible and become the most approachable version of yourself.
“Approachability is a crucial way of being that empowers you with an extraordinary edge to make a great first impression, invite interaction, build rapport, and win friends” Susan C. Young
How To Be Irresistible To Just About Anyone You Meet
IS THERE VALUE IN BEING APPROACHABLE?
Being an approachable (irresistible) person is an incredibly valuable skill to possess because when you are approachable, the opportunities that come your way, increase ten-fold.
You find that you start networking with the movers and shakers, and are consistently invited to participate in important corporate and social events.
When people see you as an approachable person this also increases the amount of business that comes your way. People trust you more and are thus more comfortable bringing their business to you.
Retaining customers becomes an easier process because of the level of confidence that your customers have in you, your business and the value that you bring.
Approachability also breaks down any perceived barriers that might exist and you become that much easier to talk to.
Overall, as your approachability increases, you build a stronger, more loyal network of people around you.
HOW TO BE IRRESISTIBLE TO ANYONE YOU MEET:
We live in a world that is filled to the brim with people trying to be so perfect all the time they end up becoming fake versions of themselves. They change everything that makes them who they are in an attempt to fit into a specific mould.
And this just breaks my heart.
It is so refreshing to see someone embracing everything about them. They don’t need makeup all the time (but wear it if they want to), embrace the stretch marks (while rocking that bikini) and couldn’t give a rat’s buttocks whether you think they’re beautiful or not!
Because they don’t need anyone’s validation.
How is that not irresistibly attractive?
You were born to be real not to be perfect. God created you to be you not someone else’s opinions of who you should be.
No one was born with the perfect highlight and seductively waxed legs. It’s time to drop the facade and embrace everything that makes you absolutely unique.
Be 100% yourself because the real you is what makes you irresistible.
Time and time again we’ve been told that a smile is contagious and I’ve come to learn that it’s the truth. Let me tell you a story.
About five years ago, I applied for a job with a small company. I prepared for weeks before the interview and was certain I would get the job.
The interview came and I did my best. A few weeks passed and I received an email stating that though I was qualified for the job, the recruiters didn’t think I would be a great fit… because I didn’t have a very friendly demeanour.
For months, I tore myself apart because I couldn’t figure out what about my body language made me seem unpleasant, and thus unattractive to the HR department.
A friend of mine explained that I had RBF. That realization turned on so many lightbulbs in my head at the time! It really explained so much!
When we walk around with frowns on our faces, we create invisible force fields saying “Caution! Stay Away From Me!”.
But is that what we truly want?
Too many of us wonder why we can’t close business deals, didn’t get that job, can’t make friends and never have dates yet walk around looking like the Grinch 365 days per year.
Please take a lesson from my notebook. Smiling is one of the most attractive qualities you have (and yes, you already have it within you). Take some time to practice smiling in front of the mirror, think happy thoughts and remember that you look so much better with a smile.
Your smile is your logo. Your personality is your business card. How you leave others feeling after having an encounter with you becomes your trademark. Click To Tweet
Did you know that being an open, accessible person makes you that much more attractive? I didn’t either, until a few years ago, and I was shocked.
Showing people that you want to connect with them, become their friends and get to know them is irresistible!
I had no idea that simply telling someone who I was excited to get to know them would make such a difference in my interpersonal relationships but it has.
Being irresistible, attractive, sexy to other people is not all about your appearance. Your availability will surpass your physical appearance every single time.
We all crave connections. Don’t believe me? Let’s do a quick experiment.
The next time you are going after a promotion at work, instead of just writing a letter or sending an email, try the following:
- check in with the supervising manager once or twice a week to talk about the vision you have for the position you’re going after while getting to know them, and
- show your manager that you are interested in the company long-term by asking deeper questions about the department’s and company’s core goals and how you want to contribute to the achievement of those goals
I can tell that, in all honesty, doing even one of those things will put you far ahead of the competition.
Openness is attractiveness… magnified!
IMPROVE YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS
Whether it’s a business or personal relationship, the ability to effectively communicate is such an attractive quality to possess.
I’ve spoken about how to improve your communication skills in the past but I wanted to talk about it once more.
Think about the most successful persons you know. Can you imagine them, having the same level of success (or irresistibility), if they were unable to properly communicate with their teams? Or their audience?
I don’t think so.
For example, Aubrey and Kayla work for a large investment firm. They’re both equally qualified to become Senior Accountants.
Aubrey gives excellent presentations at the weekly meetings and is always able to clearly communicate her goals for the department.
Kaylah, on the other hand, stumbles through many of her presentations. She is incredibly smart but sometimes uses the wrong language when speaking and can often leave her audience lost and confused.
If you were their supervising manager who would come to mind when you thought of the promotion? Aubrey no doubt.
Effective communication skills make you an irresistible person because these skills make you a better and more confident leader.
PUT YOURSELF TOGETHER NICELY
You might not want to hear this, but a big part of being irresistible to everyone is taking the time to put yourself together nicely. Though we don’t like to admit it, we are all visual creatures and appearance is the first thing we judge when meeting someone.
A part of your appearance is how you present and groom yourself. Each morning before you leave the house, take the time to think about the kind of image you want to portray that day.
Do you want to be seen as the successful, entrepreneur-in-the-making that you are? Or do you want to give off Supermodel vibes? Or both?
This doesn’t mean that you need to break the bank in an effort to dress like a movie star. (There is never a need to do that).
It is very possible to look amazing while having only a few key pieces in your wardrobe.
Take the time to groom your moustaches and beard, and comb your hair. Men, please stop wearing your pants at your ankles and put on a belt. Put yourself together how you want to be seen and treated.
In addition to properly putting yourself together, you need to feel confident. Having on the most amazing outfit in the world is nothing without the confidence to match.
Think about it. Every day is a fashion show and the world is your personal runway so work it with your fine self!
LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND
Have you ever encountered someone, who when you were speaking to them, truly listened to you and gave you their undivided attention? And when you asked them a question, they responded as if they were looking into your soul?
Didn’t that person instantly become more attractive in your eyes?
Everyone wants to feel like they have your attention and that you truly care about them. When you listen intentionally throughout a conversation with the aim to understand what the person is saying, that is worth more than a million likes on Instagram.
If you’re going to listen to someone, take the time to truly listen to what they have to say. Though looks are great to have, imagine if the person you were interested in never listened to you, would they still be as attractive? I think not!
Cultivate amazing listening skills and you will have the power to nurture amazing personal and business relationships no matter how difficult it might seem.
Plus, when you listen more than you speak, you tend to learn incredibly valuable details about someone, that when applied to that relationship, maximizes the intimacy.
BE KIND AND COMPASSIONATE
One of the most ridiculous quotes, in my opinion, is one we’ve probably all grown up hearing, “Nice guys finish last.“. This quote just makes me scratch my head.
Being kind and compassionate isn’t a weakness, it’s an irresistible superpower. Every nice guy (or girl) I’ve ever met or read about have successful businesses, are married to amazing people and live a happy life.
Everyone enjoys being around people who are genuinely nice and compassionate. It’s sort of how the law of attraction works.
Like attracts like. Good attracts good things. When you are a nice person, you attract nice people, nice things and amazing experiences into your life.
Plus people would rather be around a nice, compassionate individual than a negative, Squidward any day!
BODY LANGUAGE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU THINK
Growing up, I was always told that communication is 1% what we say and 99% what our bodies say. This is such a true statement.
Irresistibility and attractiveness have less to do with what we say and how we look, and more to do with the way we carry ourselves in a variety of situations.
From the office to romantic relationships, we use body language in so many areas of our lives. When we are able to fully harness it to the best of our abilities, we become irresistible to just about anyone we meet.
One of my favourite quotes from Jason Bateman goes something like this. “There’s this little recipe that you have to hit pretty well to get somebody to laugh. And it’s a combination of the way in which you say something, with the facial expression that you have, married with the body language that you have, etc.”
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Until next time.
All my love