When you are single, there is always a chance that you will end up dating in the nearby future. If you have just broken up with your partner, you might also feel the push to want to date. The questions for both kinds of persons is, are you really ready to date? Are you physically, emotionally and otherwise in that space to invite someone else into your life again? To help you decide, here are 10 questions to ask before you start dating. Good questions are hard to make but these are some pretty good ones.
“Never let a fool kiss you or let a kiss fool you.” Joey Adams
10 Questions To Ask Before You Start Dating
AM I READY?
A good question to ask yourself, to begin with, is “am I ready?” Are you ready to be committed to someone else? Do you have the discipline and understanding to include someone else in your space?
If you have been single for an extended period of time, this might be a difficult transition. That’s why it is incredibly important to ask yourself and really answer the question before continuing on.
DO I STILL FIND MYSELF THINKING ABOUT MY EX?
I placed this second on my list of 10 questions to ask before you start dating because this is one factor that can cause an issue in your next relationship.
If you think about your ex for an unhealthy and extended period of time then you might also find yourself doing so in your next relationship. This might be an indicator that you are still not over your ex at all.
AM I STILL ANGRY OR HURT FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS?
You might have been hurt in your past relationships. These past hurts, if not properly dealt with, will affect every relationship that you chose to have in the future.
You need to get to the core of the issue and figure out what hurts you most and deal with it. Find some closure and consult a professional if needed.
WHAT THINGS DIDN’T WORK IN MY LAST RELATIONSHIP?
What were the actions or factors that negatively affected your last relationship? Were there any personality issues on your part that were major causes of conflict?
Have you dealt with those things? If you haven’t then your prospective relationship could end up on the same tracks as your last.
DO I KNOW WHAT MY BOUNDARIES ARE & DO I KNOW HOW TO SET AND KEEP THEM?
Whenever you are dating or if and when you enter a relationship, there needs to be boundaries. A great question to ask yourself is what are those boundaries and how will you go about enforcing them.
For me, keeping myself sexually pure before marriage is a big deal for me and I will not date another person who thinks otherwise. Make a list of your boundaries and decide how and when to draw that line in the concrete.
Ask yourself, how far are you willing to go with someone while dating, then cut that in half. That should be your boundary. Click To Tweet
WHERE DO I SEE MYSELF IN FIVE TO TEN YEARS?
You need to decide. Where do you want to be in your relationship in the next five to ten years? Do you want to be someone’s girlfriend or boyfriend? Are your intentions to become someone’s husband or wife and have children?
It is imperative that you decide where you want to be and then figure out if the prospective person wants the same kinds of things you do.
DO I FEEL GOOD ABOUT MY BODY?
Now this is a deep question to ask yourself and many people get squeamish at the thought of asking it but it is very important. There was a time in my life where I hated myself and how my body looked. I was also constantly trying to find a way to change something about it.
This affected any chances of me dating because I was always caught up in my own issues. Before you think of dating it would be a great idea to actually start loving yourself again.
DO BREAKUP/ LOVE SONGS MAKE ME BURST INTO TEARS?
This I find to be a little controversial but I decided to include it anyway. Although it might be an awkward question for any guy or girl to ask it is important.
If whenever you listen to love songs or breakup songs, you start to feel super weird or sad, then you might not be ready for dating.
I love a good breakup song because they help me to feel empowered and strong. When I had just broken up with my ex, however, Taylor Swift and Pink made me burst into tears all the dang time. I knew right then and there that I was in no way ready to date or to even begin to think of dating.
I cried a million tears because of the intro to a Taylor Swift Song. Yeah, I was no way ready to date. Click To Tweet
WHAT KIND OF PERSON AM I LOOKING FOR?
This might seem like a simple question but many people skip it and later regret it. Do you have any idea what kind of person do you want to be with? Have you even given it a thought? For any relationship to work the two persons need to work hard, but they also need to be compatible.
It makes no sense you date a “bad boy” just for the hack of it and then end up crushed. There is also no point in being with an aggressive person who has no control of their temper.
Figure out personality traits, occupations etc that you are not comfortable with and keep them in mind when dating.
DO I TRULY WANT A RELATIONSHIP?
Here’s the ultimate question in the 10 questions to ask before you start dating. Being single is a great experience. You get the chance to get to know yourself, explore the world and do a myriad of things you might not be able to do otherwise.
So at the end of the day, the real question is do you really want to be in a relationship? Or, are you just afraid of being alone? Sometimes it might get lonely and you might feel cold in the big bed you’re lying in.
At the end of the day, though, I would rather be happy alone than miserable in a new relationship.
There you have it – The 10 questions to ask before you start dating. If you like this post be sure to check out this post on how to have a successful relationship or these tips for dealing with relationships and breakups.
Also, let me know. Are you recently single or have you been single for a long time? Do you think you’re ready to start dating again? I love reading your comments and hearing your thoughts so please comment down below. Please also like and share this post. I’d really appreciate your support on all my social media.
Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.